Breaking and entering: a tale of friendship done right. - ⚡️Kristen Kalp

Breaking and entering: a tale of friendship done right.

The funeral starts in 12 hours. We’re tired, we’ve just driven five hours to reach her, and she’s not home.

We carve the screen on her window to pieces, slip into the house, and pass out on her bed until she gets home the next morning.

In the days before cell phones, my friend Dawn wasn’t easy to reach. She flitters, she flies. She’s a freaking butterfly.

So Doey and I ended up breaking into her house in Syracuse on the night before her Grandma’s funeral. To be there for her, even though she didn’t ask for our presence.

It’s what friends do.

They make time. They show up when it counts. They don’t count the cost or keep tabs.

You jump, I jump.
I’m in.
Of course.
You got it. I’m there.

When grown-ups talk about the world of friendship, they seem fairly bitter. She didn’t…he didn’t…that bitch…ugh…I just…I just feel so alone

In my experience, friendship is a sacred contract that says, again and again, “I see you. I hear you. I’m here.”

It’s not about how many coffees you grab together or even how frequently you talk. It’s not about whether you’ve exchanged BFF necklaces or can wear one another’s clothing.

It’s about the depths you reach when you’re together.

What are you willing to reveal about yourself in the other’s company?
Are you willing to say anything? Even the painful, uncomfortable, awkward, or hazardous things?
Are you willing to go there?

The more open you are, the closer you’ll be and the longer the friendship will flourish.

It isn’t about the time you put in, but about the emotions you put in during that time.

So, if you’re having trouble keeping friends or making friends or connecting in general, ask yourself where you’re keeping people out.

Where is your heart hard? Where are you like, no way, not going there? That’s exactly the place a friend can help. And heal.

Friendship allows for the healing.

Friends in business are even better, because they know the fear that washes over you when your bank account is low or your last marketing promotion failed (this article might help fix that) or you feel like giving up and going to work at Starbucks.

Let people in. Let them matter to you, let them help you.

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