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The Good, The Bad, and the Binary

In this episode of That’s What She Said, we’ll talk about The Good, The Bad, and the Binary. I’ll walk you through the ways the concepts of ‘good’ and ‘bad’ fail women in particular, due to our good girl conditioning.

Spoiler Alert: the difference between a ‘bad’ girl and true evil is A SPECTRUM SO BIG THAT IT TAKES ABOUT 20 MINUTES TO DEMONSTRATE USING VIVID EXAMPLES FROM MY LIVED EXPERIENCE AS A BUSINESS COACH.

You’ll hear the results of THREE YEARS’ worth of wrestling with these concepts come together in one 41-minute podcast episode. 👇🏻

P.S. If you’ve ever had your brain tell you that you should be further along by now, listen to this.

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Bruce Report #2 // PURE JOY SPAM, BABY!

2023 has gone from zero stars to a full TWO stars! ⭐️⭐️

And you can blame Bruce Springsteen.

In breezy, professional speak:

A new Bruce Report episode of That’s What She Said is up, and it’s all about my encounter with The Boss, remembering what giddy feels like, and how deeply vulnerable it is to share sheer joy.

In how-I-actually-feel speak:

BRUCE SPRINGSTEEN AND I HAD A MOMENT AND IT LOOKED LIKE THIS

AND FELT LIKE THIS

AND I AM STILL SMILING FROM THIS FACE (NOPE I didn’t have a camera and YUP he’s holding my gaze and YUP the anonymous Bruce fan who sent me this is AMAZING)

AND HERE IS THE NEW BRUCE REPORT.

💥 If you’re like, WAIT WHO CARES ABOUT YOUR SEEING SPRINGSTEEN?

I decided to make 2023 about as much joy as I possibly could when I found out my mom was dying. Then she died (fully story here, poems about it here), and dad got cancer, and then he had surgery and he’s okay(!!!).

I’m seeing Bruce on tour 6x this year to balance my pain and joy scales, because the past six months have been WOW PAIN. Bruce Report #1 is here.

IN MATTERS OF ADDITIONAL JOY: 👇🏻

Bubs is obsessed with bubbles. 🐶

Hugs,

K

P.S. This is LAST CALL for the Dublin Imaginarium!

Join me for a few days of re-imagining your life from the ground up, starting with every area of life where you say you’re ‘fine’ but actually, you’re breathing fire and your family members are low key surprised that you haven’t burned the house down with your dragon rage. 😉

Details here.

Buy a workshop seat here.

All Bruce media bits were given to me by a random fan whose name I don’t know but who was sweet, kind, and delightful enough to send these along! Thank you, guy!

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Love Letter for Amy // 3 poems about grief

Good Girl Grief

Experts have told you all about the stages of grief.

You thought you were prepared for the rage,
and still you are surprised
to wake with fire streaming from your skin:
all this anger with nowhere to go.

Tamp down the flames.
Hide the smoldering.

You may not shout at anyone —
this isn’t a school board meeting
about banned books.

You may not shout into the ether, either.
Pretending to be fine is our ultimate pastime.

Don’t seethe, it puts people off.

Don’t just stand there,
it reminds people of what you’ve lost.

Pretend you do not want to scream.

Better yet: pretend you do not want.

…

Perfect.

Listen in to this episode of That’s What She Said as I share 3 poems about the grief of losing my mom. This one is for Amy, whose final request as a coaching client was to, quite simply, keep talking.

P.S. More of my poems here, pick up my book of poetry here.

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I should be further along by now.

Let’s talk about what holds us back at the deepest levels in business on a daily basis: our own minds.

We need to be able to meet the present moment fully, without our asshole brains continuously telling us how far behind we are. That’s why “I should be further along by now” is such a dangerous phrase.

“I should be further along by now” completely robs us of the nutrients of Now, since ‘further along’ is 100% future-focused.

“I should be further along by now” also forces us to focus on our perceived ‘failings.’

No matter WHAT we accomplished today, our asshole brains can ALWAYS beat us up with how much further along a completely imagined path we ‘should’ be by now.

Just won a Pulitzer? WHY ISN’T THIS YOUR THIRD.

Just signed a $$$$ client? SHOULD HAVE BEEN ABLE TO DO THAT SIX MONTHS AGO.

Just filed hellish paperwork? SHOULD HAVE HAD THAT DONE IN 2019.

In this episode of That’s What She Said, I’ll walk you through the MANY MANY HUNDREDS of times I’ve encountered this phrase and how to counteract it internally.

Let’s stop this phrase from rolling around your brain and sabotaging your work.

Tune in as I share the places where I’ve seen this phrase, ways I’ve combated this phrase within myself over the years, AND where it still trips me up. 👇🏻

P.S. Asshole brain is a term I made up to talk about allllllllll the ways your own thoughts mess with you *in ways that no one else can see.*

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The Bruce Report (1/6)

Because of all that’s going on in my life at the moment (catch up on my life circumstances here), I’m deeply committed to nourishing joy and delight in 2023 — not because it’s cute or nice, but because it’s vital to the survival of my soul.

In Bruce Report #1 of 6 in 2023, I walk you through the magic of seeing Bruce Springsteen in concert to a sold-out crowd. You don’t have to like him or his music in order to enjoy what he’s teaching me and what I observe when I’m part of a sold-out arena crowd.

P.S. Here’s where you can catch up on every episode of That’s What She Said!